Wedding vows

Tips for Writing your Own Wedding Vows

These days, more and more couples are personalizing their wedding ceremonies by expressing their vows with their own word. It can be easy to speak from you heart and express your feelings, but is important to follow some guidelines when writing your own vows.

First you have to decide if you will each write your own separate vows or if you would each recite a vow that you write together. You can each make your personalized promises to each other, and then exchange more traditional, formal vows.

You must keep in mind that a vow is an agreement. It should have three features: a declaration of love; promises of your marriage; and personal touches. For example: "John, my love, I fill my heart with you, to love you until the end of my days; I pledge to cherish both our similarities and differences; Before I met you, I thought men like you did not exist."

You must agree on the tone you want to set before you both begin writing. Your words do not have to be similar but the styles should be. The vows you choose should depend on what you want to emphasize and what is most important to both of you. It can be fidelity, the importance of family, or maintaining your individuality. You can talk about how and where you first met, how you felt when you first kissed and tie this in to what you want to pledge to your partner.

If you are having a religious ceremony, the officiant can help you write vows that pertain to your faith. Non-religions officiants can also help you direct you to resources you can use or examples from recent clients.

Although you should practice beforehand, do not over rehearse. You want to sound natural, you can use note cards if needed. Someone in your wedding party can hand you the card and take it back when you are done. It is ok to get emotional, it's your wedding, and it's your first opportunity to express your love for the one you are marrying.

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